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7 Secrets for a Happy Life

Posted: October 16, 2009, 6:50 pm
by jon45
7 Secrets for a Happy Life
- Jonathan Lockwood Huie

We all want to be happy, but something always gets in the way. There is never enough time... or money. Somebody is always failing to do what they are "supposed" to do... or not do. Our boss, our spouse, our kids, our parents, our friends, government, big business, whoever... "They" aren't doing it right. "They" failed us. We are angry, and we have a right to be angry. But is that righteous anger making us happy?

Happiness is not something anyone else can give us... or take away from us. Happiness is what we make of our lives... or don't. Whatever our circumstances, we can create a joyful life... or a miserable life. It is up to us.

Here are my 7 Secrets for a Happy Life

1. Respect Yourself: If I don't love and respect myself, who will? It all starts right here with ME. If I think that I'm a pretty good person, it doesn't much matter what anyone else thinks. And the irony is that once I like myself, most everyone else will like me too. People enjoy being around people who speak well of themselves - not in an arrogant boastful way, but with honest self-appreciation.

2. Forgive Everyone for Everything: Angry and happy don't mix. Flush out the angry, and the happy has a place to put down roots. Until we forgive everyone for everything, we hold on to anger and resentment. Once we forgive, we can become happy. Forgiving is not a gift to someone else - Forgiving is our gift to ourselves - a great gift - the gift of happiness.

3. Be Grateful for All of Life: Each of us has been infinitely blessed - beginning with the gift of life. Whatever may appear to be missing or broken on any particular day, our glass is not half full, it is 99.9% full. More practically, when we feel ungrateful, we become unhappy. When we choose to feel and express our gratitude, the act of feeling and speaking our thanks creates a happiness within us. The more we express our gratitude, the more we have for which to be grateful. Today and every day, take time to celebrate life - whether an hour's meditation in a quiet natural space, or a brief moment's conscious pause to breathe deeply and celebrate gratitude for life.

4. Choose Happiness: Everything in life is a choice. There is never anything we ever "need" to do. Every action and thought is a choice and has consequences - pleasant or unpleasant. Whether you go to work today, change jobs, smile at the bank teller, yell at your kids, complain about life, hold a daily celebration of gratitude for life - they are all choices. Happiness is a choice. Stay alert and make conscious choices for happiness.

5. Begin at the End: You can never reach your destination if you don't have a destination. Decide what accomplishments you want recorded on your tombstone. Take a whole quiet day to consider your life. Be very clear that your happiness does NOT depend on reaching your goal. In fact, it's the reverse. Your happiness depends on accepting whatever life throws at you while you walk the path toward your goal. What is important for your happiness is having a goal, and working toward it.

6. Start Today: Whatever you want in life, start today. Not tomorrow - today. Let it be a small beginning - a tiny beginning. Your happiness depends on starting today - every day.

7. Accept that Life is NOT "Supposed to be Fair": Know that there is no single way that life is "supposed" to be. Demanding that life meet our expectations is a sure fire recipe for a miserable existence. Life is a game with no rules. Life just happens to us regardless of our best intentions. Our only path to happiness lies in being open to receiving whatever life throws at us - with Gratitude. Have NO Expectations of life.

Posted: October 17, 2009, 7:20 pm
by Space
Thank you for sharing these thoughts with us!
Sometimes we get involved or even generate all that chaotic we-they-us?-you-me?-we-us? Because we need them to grow up … or to just overdo our ownself .. As long as we don´t blame others, I guess it is ok … it isn´t?

Posted: October 17, 2009, 9:40 pm
by jon45
Virginia, Thank you for your kind reply.

As long as we focus on conscious choices rather than habitual instinctive reactions, we'll all do fine.

Light & Love,

Posted: October 18, 2009, 3:19 pm
by Space
Yeah! You are right, of course!
That is magic, I can tell that being aware of my choices (no blames) is the source of peace of mind! ... oh, I am perfect in learning for "mistakes" ;) ....
But, you said beautifully I shouldn´t add a word! :0:
Thank you for being here! welcome!

Seven Steps to Happiness

Posted: November 3, 2009, 4:30 pm
by Fabulous Future
I liked that seven steps to happiness - it really is starting each day doing something do not know why taking the first step seems always to be the most difficult .

Posted: November 3, 2009, 9:37 pm
by ladybird
Dear (((((Jonathan))))

I am very impressed with your seven steps to happiness...

mega thanx for sharing those gems :)

love & blessings
ladybird luv

happy and contented

Posted: November 21, 2009, 2:37 am
by Gold
I am newbie Mr. jon45. I found your share very true and interesting. I think other people should take a look at this secret because it will help us to be happy and contented. right?

Posted: November 27, 2009, 2:26 am
by olivia751

Great thoughts for live a happy life. Thanks for such a great thing here. I think many of us know about these secrets but many few of us apply them in life.

"Very little is needed to make a happy life; it is all within yourself, in your way of thinking."

"The good life, as I conceive it, is a happy life. I do not mean that if you are good you will be happy; I mean that if you are happy you will be good."


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Posted: February 26, 2010, 8:27 am
by BigPeteH
Thanks for your thoughts Jonathan

Why do you think it is necessary to have a goal? I seem to have no goal at all yet am happy and productive anyway.

Indeed, I would have to become unhappy with life as it is in some way in order to be able to select a personal goal.

Can our goal not simply be to love unconditionally whatever is?

Kind regards,

Posted: March 7, 2011, 5:48 pm
by Michelle
hello Jonathon and all...

I would like to add a piece of life advise I give many times and is one my dearest departed definately knew...