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Post by BigPeteH » December 8, 2009, 2:26 am

I am going to begin this article with a rather provocative statement.

Religions, cultures, beliefs and opinions which differ from our own should not be tolerated.

Now, before you fall off your chair in disbelief at this apparently out of character statement, let me explain further. Let us examine the word tolerate. If I were to say to you that 'I tolerate my wife' or 'I tolerate my children', how would you view my relationship with them? Tolerance is often held up as a virtue in our society, but I am of the view that this is simply not good enough.

If we just tolerate another religion, culture or belief, we are effectively saying, 'That lot are clearly wrong and frankly I don't like them very much, but they are here, so I suppose that I will have to put up with it because I am too much of a coward to tell the truth about how I feel.' Tolerate is what you do with a toothache until the time of your dentist appointment comes around.

Tolerance in this respect is fundamentally dishonest. You either completely accept others' right to have opinions, beliefs and customs that differ from your own, or you do not. If you do not, you should be honest and say so. If you tolerate another person's way of life, you are being dishonest, both with yourself and with the other. You are pretending to be OK with it, when really you are not. Acceptance, on the other hand, is a different matter. If you accept something, you no longer have to tolerate it. You have accepted it. It no longer troubles your mind at all.

But may I suggest going a step further than acceptance. My suggestion is that we openly celebrate our differences. What an incredibly dull world this would be without the myriad of wonderful differences in belief, opinion, custom and appearance.

Imagine the wonderful variety of life in the world which is often celebrated in TV programmes such as those made for the BBC by the great broadcaster David Attenborough.

Giraffe: Those blummin' gazelles. Can't stand them, with their short necks, white bellies and their bouncing in the air. Have you seen what they eat? Low down vegetation! Disgusting! How can anyone eat low down vegetation when there is all this wonderful high up vegetation?

Elephant: Oh, I don't know. I quite enjoy both high up and low down vegetation. Perhaps you should give low down a try some time. Mind you, you're right about that bouncing in the air thing. Flippin' show offs. Anyway, must be off. Catch you at the watering hole. [Under his breath] Lanky short nosed yellow poser.

Sounds a bit silly, right? Doesn't really happen, does it? No. Of course not. Animals aren't mentally disturbed like many humans are.

I suggest that rather than tolerating, we should welcome, cherish and celebrate the wonderful variety of human life in the same way we celebrate the wonderful variety of other species.

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Post by Ron Atchison » December 8, 2009, 9:50 am

I couldn't agree with you more Big Pete... especially the parts about 'accepting' and 'celebrating'.

Thank you again mate!!! ;)

~ Ron

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Post by BigPeteH » December 9, 2009, 2:00 am

You're very welcome, Captain Ron! :)

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Post by Lion~* » December 9, 2009, 2:37 pm

Fabulous write up, Pete!!!! Tolerance is dishonest and unaccepting. There are many words people use that seperate and destroy worth. I hope you provoke a great deal of thoughtfulness in every reader! We are not taught to be solidly honest in life are we? " Do as I say, not as I do!"
Have life come and shatter you so completely that all you have is truth to pick up and cherish... tolerance ends and acceptance, honesty and renewal begins. We have to make that choice for ourselves ... What maturity and boldness! It is true love for all life and cannot lie.
Fill your paper with the breathings of your heart...William Wordsworth

Follow your honest convictions, and stay strong. - William Thackeray

The bottom line, especially for my character,
is the issue of unconditional love.”
Matthew Weeden

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Post by BigPeteH » December 10, 2009, 3:06 am

Thank you for a very moving response! :)

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Post by Laura Sue » December 10, 2009, 3:00 pm

Well done - I do believe this will be my prayer for the day!

Best wishes, Laura

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Post by BigPeteH » December 10, 2009, 3:16 pm

Thank you, Laura

I would be very honoured if it inspires your prayer. :)

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Post by mwzephyr » December 27, 2009, 5:15 pm

I was taught to respect that God talked to each man and woman's soul.
I think only God and each individuals heart can judge that individual.


Religious leaders walk a fine line betwen God and man and therein lies the rub... Whom is qualified to mediate our relationship with our maker?

"May we bless one another as God blesses us and shall we never curse, nor pray against another man lest God curse us in kind..."


~sparrow :)
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Post by Lion~* » December 28, 2009, 3:55 pm

I was taught to respect that God talked to each man and woman's soul.
I think only God and each individuals heart can judge that individual.


Indeed, David!!!

What a different world it would be if instead of being demi gods of judgement.... people empowered one another to be the talented, wisdom seeking, love embracing, significant individuals and not the conformity "do this,this and that or you are excluded as unworthy*.

People don't feel loved because what people say they believe and what they live clash. There is a verse in the Bible that says, ' Woe to you who know the good you ought to do and do not. ' We are judged by how we judge others... however one wants to term it, ' law of love, life, charma'... You don't have to be religious or even think in spiritual terms at all... fact is... we live as people surrounded in the law of love and the lack thereof every day of our lives and it springs forth in intolerance or acceptance to be who we are.


“A deep distress hath humanized my Soul.”
William Wordsworth


I have had much experience with religon, legalism and judgementalism... and I know the life giving power of unconditional love and I know the spiriutal touch of God's divine Love that heals my wounded soul. What I believe has come from my own unique experiences... just like you. But in your own life... I hope most fervantly that you will know the fullness of accepting yourself for the wonder and completeness you are. Being completely honest about yourself changes how you accept and judge others.

The courage to be is the courage to accept oneself, in spite of being unacceptable. ~Paul Tillich

When I seperated my own self from the judgements of every single person I've known... both positive and negatives. Taking into consideration what I believe, know, feel, give and why. Gathering together for inspection my strengths and frailties...I see a balance and not a mutation or lacking!!! When I look only at my own integrity of soul with my strengths and vulnerabilities ... how can I not look at people with deeper respect and tenderness knowing we all share the same longing need to be accepted.

I used to tell my children often, " I may not understand how you feel or agree with what you do, but I will always respect that how you feel is how you feel. This is your life. My job is to love you all the way through."

Love humbles. Constantly there are battles of judgement that devour love. But as for me and my soul... I choose to love... I always have ... even when love unhinged my soul with such longing and need that I too judged and acted in defense. Is there shame in that? No... not if there is learning, honesty and becoming a victor to loves deepest worthiness ... the integrity of my soul before the only One I believe qualified to judge me.


Be gentle with yourself, learn to love yourself, to forgive yourself, for only as we have the right attitude toward ourselves can we have the right attitude toward others.” Wilfred Peterson

“It takes a good deal of character to judge a person by his/her future instead of his past” unknown

“Only a kind person is able to judge another justly and to make allowances for weaknesses. A kind eye, while recognizing defects, sees beyond them.”
Lawrence G. Lovasik



I know you wrote focusing about acceptance to others Pete, but I know for me... I learned more about judgement when I came face to face with the primal need to accept myself! love Janice
Fill your paper with the breathings of your heart...William Wordsworth

Follow your honest convictions, and stay strong. - William Thackeray

The bottom line, especially for my character,
is the issue of unconditional love.”
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